Should You Move In With A Family Member?

One of the options available for a Senior who is no longer able, or no longer wants, to continue living in their home is moving in with a family member.

This is definitely something that you want to talk through before making a decision because while it is a great option for option for families that cannot afford an assisted living facility, it can put a strain on relationships due to stress. Many families are ready to step up and say, “We’ll take care of you,” but do not take into account the stress this will cause within the family.

One situation that can arise, if the home belongs to a married couple, is one of the spouses being okay with the parent living there and the other one not being as okay with it. Another factor is that there may be young children in the home. There could also be two parents to like take care of instead of just one, which can cause a lot of stress.

The fact is that all Senior housing is more expensive than living with a family member. If something does not go according to plan, or there is no plan, living with a family member may be your best option, or may be your only option. However, moving in with a family member can still put strain on finances because now there is another house that must be dealt with. All of these factors take an emotional toll as well. The best way to ensure a smooth transition is to plan ahead.

Some Seniors and their adult children may enjoy integrating their family and getting to see grandchildren on a regular basis. However, not all families get along when forced into regular close quarters. If the relationship is strained or both parties are not in agreement, then this strategy will not end well. Relationships will not magically improve once everyone is living together. In fact, living together can often make it worse.

For this situation to work well for everyone, make sure that both parties agree on the house rules and boundaries and address family issues. Family dynamics, relationships, and money are topics families frequently fail to discuss. Consider getting professional help or counseling if needed, because while many families feel obligated or even want to take care of the Seniors in their lives it is important to make decisions that are smart for everyone involved.